I think it’s safe to say that I didn’t waste any tears on waving 2018 goodbye; if any they
were tears of joy that it’s finally behind me. No doubt my Lady and I faced more challenges and setbacks than what we’ve had in over 30 years. It’s really not the way any of us want to begin our Golden Years so to speak, but we met each moment head on and kept our sanity (for the most part) so to speak. Two motivational factors flooded my mind during our downturns. Enter the Good Lord and Pearly Mae.
The memory of the first house we bought in Ohio came back to me. It was an old place that needed a tremendous amount of work just for us to move into. All the windows had to be replaced, several walls had to be knocked out and rebuilt and the roof had to be totally redone. But the biggest selling point to my Aunt Pearl were the hardwood floors. They were filthy with several layers of dirt covering them, and when we cleaned off the soil and rubbish, the wood was marred with deep scratches. Pearl bought a floor sander and taking one room at a time she got the boards back where you could see the grain. Then came several coats of varnish that brought out the beauty of the flooring. As each room was finished my beloved Aunt would smile at the finished product, restored by countless hours of toil and elbow grease. She took so much pride in what had been accomplished.
Then came the year when the local river flooded; since we lived just a block away the authorities told us we would have to evacuate. The Red Cross had set up a shelter inside a large church where we stayed for several days. When we were finally allowed to return it wasn’t pretty. The basement was flooded and the water had reached several inches high on the first level. As we entered the structure, I could see the look of sadness on Pearl’s face. Her beautiful floors were covered with sand, garbage and a few dead fish. She walked room to room before sitting down at the dining room. And for the first time in my young life I saw the strongest woman I had ever known, cry. I wanted to cry with her! All the work she had done was now ruined and no one would have blamed her if she had put the house up for sale and left. But the moment the crying stopped, she shifted back into Super Pearly again. Grabbing brooms, dust pans and buckets we started cleaning up the mess taking the debris out one pail at a time. When the cleaning was complete, it was time to put the sander back into action, and then refinish each and every floor. It wasn’t as time consuming as the first but still it was labor intensive. Once again, her beautiful floors were shining through the house. I remember one of the neighbors coming over and expressing how sad it was that Pearl had to do all that work twice. With her determined look she would often she answer, “You can give up, or you can get busy!”
In James 1:2-4 we read, “Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance. Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything.”
One of the biggest lessons I’ve learned is that becoming a Christian doesn’t mean life will be a walk through a flower garden. As I have named this blog it’s “Traveling the Rock Road,” it’s facing adversity just like everybody does; only difference is now you have God in the form of the Holy Spirit taking each step with you, never leaving or forsaking you. There are times I’m ready to run away in an attempt to leave my troubles behind. But we all know you can’t do that. So, I have to turn to my Heavenly Father for direction and peace.
Proverbs 3:5-6, “Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight.”
1 Peter 5:7, “Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you.”
Philippians 4:13, “I can do all this through him who gives me strength.”
It’s been a rough year, don’t know if this one will be any better; but I know I can meet all that comes my way. I was mentored by the strongest woman I ever knew, and I have the assurance that I’m not facing anything alone; my God is there for me.
Perhaps you’re at a breaking point and not sure what to do next. You don’t have to go it alone. The Maker of Heaven and Earth is there for you, every step of the way.
As the Lord and Pearly Mae both say, “You can give up, or you can get busy!”
I choose Option B.
See ya next time.
grandparents. I loved being around them, visiting their homes, eating the special treats they kept just for youngsters, but mostly I loved to listen to the stories they would tell from their young days. One of the special surrogate grandmas was a dear lady who lived next door to us back in Fremont–Florence. She worked for years at the county courthouse and was up on all the politics, local, state and national. She told me stories of politicians and dignitaries she had met on trips to Washington D.C. and visiting the White House and many other famous buildings. There was a picture of her and Harry Truman she kept on an end table she was very proud of. She’d talk about going to New York City and seeing places I dreamed of like the Empire State building and the Statue of Liberty. She me gave old items like a violin she played in her youth and a saxophone her husband would perform with. Without a doubt my prize possession still today is a solid oak tool box that I display in our front room I’m sure dates back nearly one hundred years. The memory of Florene or Flossy as many called her still brings me joy. I suppose that’s because she always seemed to enjoy the visit of this one time obnoxious and inquisitive youngster.
personality. But just like anyone, I have my moments when I feel like I’ve reached the end of my rope without enough left to tie a knot and hang on. Last Wednesday was one of those moments.
surrounding New England states. I confess as much as we try to stay economical on such a trip, it still cost more than we like to spend. As much enjoyment as we
surrounding New England states. It was tiring seeing as we traveled 2,600 miles round trip, but we both love seeing all the sights along the way and stopping occasionally to take in something we hadn’t planned on. Seldom do we turn on the radio, we see it as a distraction to gazing on the beautiful landscape that our country has to offer. But on one trip I did have the radio playing and heard something I had never heard before nor since that left a lasting impression on this man.
from God’s Word, but have challenged me to lead a life dedicated to serving our Lord, now and until my days on earth are finished. One individual in particular challenged me greatly, not so much in what he had to say, but how he lived his life.
town to put on a concert. These guys were hired as roadies to help set up the stage for the evening concerts. When they finished they became part of the entourage sent to retrieve the musicians from a nearby city where hotel accommodations were more to their suiting. All the band members were ready and loaded into two luxury vans; all except the lead singer. Entering the hotel to see what might be the holdup, they met the star-studded performer in the lobby and he was not happy. “I looked out and saw you only sent two vehicles. That’s for the band, not me! I come alone so if you don’t have another vehicle just for me, there won’t be a concert. You understand me?” They got it and after a quick phone call a company there in the community soon sent a stretch-limo for the singer and another unidentified person. Arriving at the concert venue, this pompous male-diva continued to be rude to everyone who had contact with him. The only time you saw a smile and heard gracious words was while he was on the stage. Afterwards he sat at a table, signed autographs and seldom raised his head to see the person standing in front of him. When finished he and his mystery companion loaded back into the limo and left. All the people that dealt with him were saying good riddance! It was a great concert, but no one wanted an egotistical self-proclaimed rock ‘n’ roll god around anymore than necessary. Then I spoke to another friend.
know several musicians I’ve been able to keep contact with over the years. One certain individual never made it the big stage, so to speak, but he was a talented writer and made a decent living from other artists recording his songs. I always liked Bobby, as he was called, because he never put on airs and treated everyone friendly. Frankly at that time in the entertainment world ones like Bobby were rare so I really enjoyed seeing and talking to him.
health, nearly half the population of the United States lit up on a regular basis, and my family was no exception. Aunt Pearl and Ma were hard core smokers; I think we had ashtrays in every room of the house. After the evening meal I’d see Pearl smoke up to three cigarettes before getting up to clean the kitchen. But somewhere around 1965 she had a routine medical examine where x-rays showed she had a small spot on one lung. That was enough for her! On the day she received the report she smoked her last cigarette and never touched another one again. She shared the news with her family and I can’t say for sure if it was an incentive for her brother, my Great Uncle Sam, but he quit about the same time; with one difference.

