Three Little Words

6 11 2016

Cathy and I just celebrated our anniversary, 43rd to be exact. And I’m happy to claim with Luau Piceach year the love I have for the one I call My Lady grows stronger. But also, every year when this moment comes around I remember 3 little words that a few acquaintances and even family members said about our marriage. “It’ll never last.”

You see the two of us started out with more differences than a-likes when we first came together. Cath was raised in a strong Christian family growing up going to church every time they opened the doors. I came to a saving knowledge of the Lord later in life; before that I went to church sporadically and truthfully was quite confused on what I believed. Her life was disciplined with rules on conduct, where she could go, what she could do and who she could see. Mine, well being raised by a single parent gave me lots of time to do whatever I wanted, even moving out on my own when I was 16. Probably the biggest difference was each of our reputations; my Lady was seen as a good girl with high morals and a passion to do right especially to her parents and her Lord. I was seen as having a bad attitude, quick temper, foul mouth, and perhaps not the best to leave your daughter alone with. So when we began dating the skeptics figured it wouldn’t last long, too many differences to stay together. When we married I thought the doubters would now accept our love and commitment for each other; that was not to be the case.

Perhaps the saddest part is how well we proved them right in the beginning; dating was one thing but making a life together in marriage definitely had its quirks. There were fights, there were times of not speaking to each other, simple discussions or decisions would end up in a yelling match.  The thoughts would creep in, were they right about how wrong we were for each other? From the world’s position the answer is yes. But not to God.

There were several things Cathy and I were going to have learn if our marriage ever going to make it. Our marriage was something God wanted to see succeed.

“God created marriage. No government subcommittee envisioned it. No social organization developed it. Marriage was conceived and born in the mind of God.”  ~ Max Lucado 

God not only meant us to be lovers, he meant us to be the best of friends.

“There is no more lovely, friendly or charming relationship, communion or company, than a good marriage.”  ~ Martin Luther

When God said the two shall be as one; He didn’t say it as a good idea for a successful marriage, He meant it as survival of the two together.

“A married person does not live in isolation. He or she has made a promise, a pledge, a vow, to another person. Until that vow is fulfilled and the promise is kept, the individual is in debt to his marriage partner. That is what he owes. “You owe it to yourself” is not a valid excuse for breaking a marriage vow but a creed of selfishness.” ~ R.C. Sproul

When we learned one of the most valuable lessons it strengthened our marriage beyond anything it had ever been before; that is to love God first.

“To encounter Christ is to touch reality and experience transcendence. He gives us a sense of self-worth or personal significance, because He assures us of God’s love for us. He sets us free from guilt because He died for us and from paralyzing fear because He reigns. He gives meaning to marriage and home, work and leisure, personhood and citizenship.” ~ John Robert Walmsley Stott

And then of course, learning the true meaning of love.

“Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth.” ~ The Holy Bible, 1 Corinthians 13:4-6

Wow that’s a whole lot huh? So how long did it take us to learn all this? Well so far it’s 43 years and counting! It has to be put into practice constantly; without these lessons I sadly confess 43 would have never made 3. As a matter of fact on our 40th anniversary we gathered with our family at a nice restaurant in Ft. Wayne where this “Traveler of the Rock Road” got down on one knee, presented my beautiful bride with a new ring, and the promise for her would only grow stronger.

How bout that, we took the three words, “It’ll never last,” and changed to “In love forever.”

Now that’s not to say we don’t fight anymore, that just ain’t a gonna happen with an Irish-Mexican and a Street Kid. The fights just don’t last as long anymore; but the making up is so much better!!

See ya next time.





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