Pearly Mae’s Gift & The Gift of Pearly Mae

22 01 2011

If you were asked the question, “Are you doing what you thought or hoped you would be at this point in your life” what would be your answer?  I’ll a venture a guess that a good number would have to answer no, and yes, I’m one of them!  I never had aspirations for pursuing the occupation I find myself in today. That’s not to say I don’t enjoy my job, I do; but it’s a far cry from what I aimed for.  This once upon a starry-eyed dreamer had visions of producing million selling records and playing to arenas filled to the rafters with fans that had come to see and hear him perform his music.  Yes sir, dreams are good and even better when you’re able to live them out, and yes, there are some who do get that chance and to them I offer congratulations.  However, for the majority of us, well, life seldom leads down the road we hoped.  That happened to be the case also for the person who influenced my life the most during my youth.

Young Pearly Mae would sit quietly in the night, close to the big tube radio, turning it up just loud enough so as not to disturb her sleeping family.  Closing her eyes, she would be whisked away to cities like New York, Boston, Chicago, Saint Louis, and Miami where the nightlife and the party never ended.  With the gala came the music; oh, that mystifying beautiful music!  Benny Goodman, Tommy Dorsey, Artie Shaw, Glen Miller, Frank Sinatra, Peggy Lee, Doris Day, Count Basie and Duke Ellington.  She would envision in her mind the giant ballrooms where the orchestra played and singers crooned to a room full of people who had come out in their evening best, men in tuxedos and women clad in the finest dresses that were the rage of the day.  With eyes still closed and a soft smile on her face, she would envision being in the midst of the festivities, surrounded by all the fun and laughter, singing to the melody and dancing the night away with a tall dapper gent who ccouldn’t take his eyes off of her radiant beauty; so wonderful she thought.  When opportunity allowed, Pearl would go to the local movie house to take in a picture showing some of the great orchestras and singers she listened to, plus other stars of the big screen.  Clark Gable, Humphrey Bogart, Douglas Fairbanks, Jr. and Laurence Olivier were among some her favorites.  The world that she saw on the big screen and listened to on the radio was like viewing life on another planet in comparison to the rural ways she had grown up knowing in Southern West Virginia.  Nevertheless, Pearl felt she just had to experience that world someday; she just had to taste that life if only for just a moment.  That was not to be the case.

Meeting a man who convinced her he could take her to see the bright lights, music and stars, Pearl married; but unfortunately it wasn’t long before she realize her decision would not lead down the path to her dreams.  Stricken with sickness, her new groom was unable to work so Pearl was saddled with supporting them.  A nephew she cared for moved in until he joined the service to fight in WW2.  Then her oldest sister died of cancer and Pearl found herself raising a niece; later down the road, me.  Pearly Mae now reconciled to the fact her life was headed in a completely different direction than the one hoped and yearned for.  

 Pearl did get to travel even with the circumstances the way they were.  With the war effort going on, Civil Service jobs were available.  These positions were temporary, but they offered pay, travel, and places to live.  The labor at times was hard, but Pearl was up to the task.  Working these jobs allowed her to see and board huge ships as they came into the Chesapeake Bay and Richmond, Virginia even if it was only to clean them.  Crossing the country by rail gave her opportunity to see places she had only read and heard of.  She not only saw cities she had wanted to visit, there were wonderful sights like the mighty Mississippi River, the grandeur of the Rocky Mountains and the Great Salt Lake of Utah; simply magnificent!  Beyond that though, her favorite experience was something that Pearl had a knack for, making new friends. Seems people always enjoyed being around her because of her positive attitude and fun ways.  Whatever cares she may have held, nobody would know what they were.  She was too busy making other folks feel good rather than talking about her life.  Hard work and long hours on your feet would make the joints ache from the rigors of these government jobs.  Nevertheless, at the end of a day Pearl and some of her coworkers would muster up enough energy to go somewhere where they could unwind a bit.  In Utah, it was a little tavern where they could listen to a jukebox, drink a beer or two, or maybe a glass of Mogan David grape wine, something that Pearl enjoyed on occasion.  On of the best things about these little get-togethers was her discovery of a delicacy she had never had before, and fell completely in love with its tantalizing taste, Pizza!  Work and life took my beloved Aunt Pearl many places, but never for the reason she had dreamed of in her youth.  It was now for the care and need of others.  When we moved to Ohio, we had three elderly ladies as neighbors.  Pearl was always checking on them or you might find one or more of them sitting in our house talking to her while having some coffee, and an occasional glass of Mogan
David Wine.  We use to grow the biggest garden on the block (back in those days, the only one, too) and she was always bagging up vegetables to take to someone.  Many times, there would be a knock at our door in the night and someone would come asking to borrow money.  She seldom turned anyone away even though she knew, with some; she would never see the money again.  Then there were the yard parties; oh, those splendid yard parties!  Along with a large garden, Pearl had the biggest watermelon patch on the east side of town.  And what do you do when all those melons ripen at the same time?  Well, I suppose you could open a little stand out front of the house and sell them. On the other hand, you could invite every neighbor in a three-block area over for a good old-fashioned watermelon feast!  Everyone had a good time with the grand lady of the front yard gala the gayest.  If people were happy, then that made her happy!

It was a sad day for me when Pearl retired and chose to return to her roots in West Virginia, a decision she would end up regretting most of the time there.  A sister had come to live with us and Pearl promised her when she retired they would go back home to live.  She looked forward to it herself at first, going back to her roots, being close to her brother and other sister still there.  But it didn’t take long for her to realize she wasn’t a country girl anymore.  She had grown accustomed to living where everything was close enough to meet her needs and she could fend for herself.  Down in small rural village in the hills of West Virginia, she was dependant on others to her get around, something that she was not accustomed to.  But like everywhere else, Pearl picked up where she had left off, looking after the needs of others, having people in her home as often as possible and making them happy to be with her.  That was her gift; that was her life.

When her beloved sister Dot went to be with the Lord, something happened, a strange occurrence in Pearl’s world. For the first time in her life, she was completely alone.  Her brother Sam lived just up the road and would stop in most days, but still, at night, to close the doors to an empty house left her lonely and a little empty inside.  I began hearing from her more often. Where we used to talk on the phone twice a month we now spoke twice a week and sometimes up to an hour a time.

One Saturday Aunt Pearl saw where an old movie was going to be on TV that evening, one she had seen years ago; and it had all the stars and music she had fallen in love with as a young girl. The thought of it swept her back to that time of laughter and gaiety so long ago.  Pearl had become active in her church since returning to West Virginia and loved every minute of it and the people that she met there.  But right then, at that moment, there was a need in her to do something she had not done in years.  Grabbing up her purse she walked up the road to a small grocery and purchased items she would need for the evening; a six-pack of beer, a large frozen pizza; and a bottle of Mogan David Wine. Popping the pizza in the oven, she poured a glass of wine, and then another.  The movie started just as the pizza came out hot and ready!  Placing it on a tray next to her chair and the beer on an end table at the opposite side, she was ready for her evening.  Two glasses of wine, half a pizza and three beers later, the night was over!  She told me later how she woke up sometime in the early hours of Sunday looking at a TV that had turned to snow.  (This was back before TV programming ran 24/7; must be a scary thought to some of you young people.)  Laughing, she told me; “Funny, it didn’t have that affect on her some fifty years ago!”  Rising from the chair, she packed up the leftover pizza and placed it in the trash.  Then she dumped out the remaining three bottles of beer.  There was no need for them now; she had enjoyed her visit to yesteryear, now it was time to get back to today.  (She did keep the wine; just in case!)

I’m sure there are ones who would not approve of Pearl’s little binge.  Most likely, it was never a topic she discussed with many either, especially at her church.  Personally, I think God smiled down on this trusted servant of His that night the same way He always did.  Using powers of imagination, I envision God turning to one of His angels and saying, “Michael, take some extra angels and post them around Pearl’s house; doesn’t look like she’s going to able to lock up tonight.”

Most of Pearl’s life consisted of caring for the needs of others.  Often her’s was a hard world, one that others would not envy.  There were moments she had to have the strength and stamina of two, going on less sleep in a week than others would get in a night.  She threw off the dream of nightlife, song and endless gaiety for an existence that kept her in servitude the majority of her days.  And you know what?  I know, she wouldn’t have changed a thing if she could.  She came to recognize her calling–to be a comfort and aide to others.  She was the listening ear and the warm smile that let you know she was interested in your story; and in you.  Most of all, Pearl knew her Lord.  She knew a new day was coming that would be full of joy, laughter, song and praise.  That day came too soon for all of us who loved this dear woman when her life here on earth ended in tragic car accident.

During certain quiet moments, Pearl’s memory comes to visit me, similar in manner to when she would watch over me as a child, making sure I was okay, just as she did for so many others also.  I know I will see her again; she won’t be hard to find.  I’ll just look for the throne of God where saints will be dancing, singing and making merry around it as a praise offering to their Lord.  That’s where my Pearly Mae will be; can’t wait to join in!

We will dance on the streets that are golden
The glorious bride and the great Son of man
From every tongue and tribe and nation
We’ll join in the song of the Lamb





2011 New Year’s Resolution

2 01 2011

Let me wax a couple of stats on ya.  Stat #1:  50% of all marriages in the United States end in divorce.  Doesn’t matter what your belief system is, your political affiliation is, or whether your lifestyle is liberal or staunchly conservative, and anymore, how long you’ve been married; if you have uttered the words “I Do” sometime in your life there’s a one in two chance down the road you’re gonna you’re gonna declare “Oh No I Don’t!  And yes, I realize that some of you have already experienced that.  Ok, there’s the ugly stat, now here’s the brighter one.  Stat #2:  When surveying couples who pray together regularly, the divorce rate, (you ready for this?) falls–to less; than 1%.  Studies also tell that couples relate to having a fuller and happier marriage when they began to have a prayer life with their mate.  Pretty cool, huh?!

Now then, saying all this, and with all you good people reading the title, ‘New Year’s Resolution,’ let me now say; that’s not mine and my Lady’s.  We already do pray together regularly and have for several years now.  But, if you haven’t made a resolution yet and were looking for one, I highly recommend you give this one a whirl.  Ok, guess it’s time for Windy, the Gray Blow Hard to get his resolution, since I did say earlier that it involved all of you. ;o)

My Lady and I hold to the position that praying for someone is the best way to say, I care about you.  Be it a personal trial that a person might be going thru or maybe it’s for a loved one or anyone you want pray for that matter; or maybe it’s just to ask for a good day for that individual; we count it all joy to have the honor and privilege of binging someone or their request to the Throne Room of God.

Now I won’t make anyone promises that because we pray for you, all your troubles will go away, you’ll find a million dollars under your pillow and you’ll look like a movie star in 6 easy prayers.  Hey, take a gook look at the guy writing this!  That’s proof enough it doesn’t work that way, ok?!  But I do believe earnest prayer offered with the right attitude and intention does get answered.

Each day we will contact several of you (privately) that you are on our hearts today and we will be lifting you up in prayer; because we care for you.  Why you might ask?  Well let me assure you it’s not to build some worldwide tele-evangelistic network via FB.  I’m trying to do better not to criticize ones who have that aim, but that’s not this old boy. Maybe it’s to get everyone believing just how great, wonderful and groovy kind of guy I am; NOT!  My Lady is sent from Heaven in my book and I thank God for her every day, but me, I’m just your stereo-typical bugger-head who has stumbled thru life, made a whole lot of mistakes and finally, by the Grace of God got a few things right.  One of those that I got right was not being religious, but rather a person of faith.  And one of the best ways I’ve found to share that faith is to let someone know we’re praying for them.  Personally, I love to hear someone has been praying for this man.  I’m convinced that prayer has saved my life more than once.

We don’t have a large FB friends list, so we’ll get thru everyone rather quickly; then what?  We’ll just start all over!  Can’t have too much prayer the way I look at it.  Some of you are already a regular part of our prayer life because of friendship or family ties. We’re just making sure we really are a ‘friend’ to all who have befriended us here.  If anyone would like to send us a prayer request privately, you have our promise we will not share it with anyone but our Lord.

Thanks to all of you for what you have come to mean to us and for taking time to read this.

Blessings to you and you loved ones this coming year!

Philippians 4:4-7

4Rejoice in the Lord always.  I will say it again: Rejoice!  5Let your gentleness be evident to all. The Lord is near.  6Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God.  7And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.





Special Presents/Presence

22 12 2010

I received a Christmas present:  I got to hold the baby Jesus.  Okay, not really; but we had a Christmas cantata and I played the part of a wise man. (Please, no wise-cracks; remember it is Christmas.)  Long haired, gray bearded guys become more in demand this time of year and at Easter for just such roles.  The baby Jesus was really a newborn little cutie named Ella Pearl with lots of dark hair.  My part was to present the gift of myrrh, (what ever that is) then hold the baby and give thanks.  I know it was just a play, but for a moment I was transported back in time to that little town named Bethlehem and while looking into the face of this calm, angelic child, I could just imagine what it must have been like for those weary wanderers who had followed a star; awesome!

 I received a Christmas gift:  I made money!  Before you get the idea I’m a miser, let me go on.  My work has really dropped off lately and finances have been tight.  We’ve been doing alright, but there hasn’t been a lot of extra for things like Christmas gifts.  Cathy and I run a small candle making business; one of those endeavors that you never know how well you’re going to do.  We had the biggest December profit ever, which gave us money to buy presents and for a secret project we do for others this time of season.  Wanna know what it is?  Hey, I just told you, it’s a secret!  But it brings us joy to be able to do it each year; awesome!

I received a Christmas gift:  My children and grandchildren were at the house this week. That’s not unordinary, but I look at this small mob that converges on our home and stop to think; Cathy and I are only children and now we go three generations deep.  My lady and our grand-daughter, Hailey, slipped off to a quiet room for some swaying back and forth in a rocking chair.  Hailey Jo snuggled up close to Grandma and I could tell Cathy was enjoying the warmth in the hugs of this precious child.  I could have stood at the door and watched them for hours; awesome!

I received a Christmas gift: Christmas Eve morn I went out to our local Wal-Mart to pick up some last minute stocking stuffers.  As I turned my cart down an aisle, I heard an excited call, “Santa Claus!!!!”  This time of year I can hold several titles and with my hair hanging down and beard, a little tyke thought she had just hit the jackpot.  Her mother and I smiled cordially at each other but girl’s brother who looked to be five or six stared with saucer size eyes.  I pulled a bag of tangerines out of my cart and said to the children, “Gonna to be busy tonight so I need to get some snacks.”  The girl squealed with delight, but the boy just continued to stare, now with his mouth hanging open.  The wonder, innocence and imagination of a child; awesome!

I received a Christmas gift:  I got a hug from a beautiful lady and no, it wasn’t Cathy.  We have known her for years, but not everything there was to know.  She had endured a lifetime of abuse from a husband who had left her recently, broken and desolate.  We got her to come to church and with the support of others that came along side, we showed her that she is someone important; and she is loved.  She thanked me for what we’ve meant to her as friends and family; awesome!

I received a Christmas gift:  Cathy and I performed at church Christmas Eve.  It’s a tune done by Randy Travis called Labor of Love.  Cathy had sung duets with me and our daughter, but she has always wanted to have one of our sons sing with her.  My lady sang incredibly last night.  I accompanied her on the twelve string guitar, a friend played bass guitar and Jeremy, our oldest son, played six-string and sang harmony with his mother.  I think every person in the auditorium was moved; but not as much as this old man as he listened to two beautiful voices blend together and watched as a wish came true; awesome!

I received a Christmas gift:  phone calls.  My cell phone went off yesterday and a young familiar voice on the other end said, “Merry Christmas, Dad.  I just wanted you and mom to know I was thinking of you; I love you.  And then there was another; and another.  These are kids who in some ways are as close as our own children who have graced our lives at different moments in time and still were reaching out and blessing us; awesome!

I received a Christmas gift; it came two thousands years ago and was foretold seven hundred years prior to that.  A child would be born, a Savoir to the world and He would be called Emanuel which mean ‘God with us.’  The Old Testament tells of His coming in prophecies throughout its pages.  There was a time I wondered how anyone could be so sure that this Jesus really fit the bill.  Award winning writer and journalist Lee Strobel quotes a renowned mathematician that equated the odds of one person filling the criteria to meet just eight of the prophecies found in the Bible was one in one hundred million billion.  He calculated that if you took this number of silver dollars, they would cover the state of Texas to a depth of two feet.  If you marked one silver dollar among them and then had a blindfolded person wander the whole state and bend down to pick up one coin, what would be the odds he’d choose the one that had been marked?  That would be the odds of filling eight prophecies; and Jesus did that, not with just eight but every prophecy written about the Messiah.  They were met through Him because of the love of a Heavenly Father who sent His own Son into a cold world to be an eternal gift for all; a gift of sacrifice; awesome!

As you celebrate Christmas this year, take a moment to reflect on all the gifts you receive that maybe you have never seen as gifts before.  You just might find that child-like excitement you once had when you received something special that is meant just for you.  Remember the greatest gift that was given to everyone who will receive.  God knows you and wants you to be happy in Him with the gift of eternal life; that came as a child; awesome!

Isaiah 9:6 – “For to us a child is born, to us a son is given, and the government will be on his shoulders.  And he will be called Wonderful Counselor, Mighty God, Everlasting Father, Prince of Peace.”

Happy birthday, Jesus!





The Gift

27 11 2010

The year was 1998. Christmas had come and we at Miller Manor had finished stuffing ourselves with the tantalizing delicacies that filled the table this time of year. All the presents had been opened and pictures snapped of each person holding or wearing their new prized possession. Only thing left was clean up the mess and then kick back, relax, and breathe a sigh of relief that Cathy and I had made it through another season without breaking the stress meter before the holiday got here. Many can relate to what I’m saying. Much as we adore this time of year, the preparation leading up to it can sometimes bring a person close to the edge. Sometimes I feel a little silly when it’s all over on how worked up I get worrying things will not go well. I try to think of a Christmas that went bad, only to come up with memories of laughter, joy and smiles at each and every one of them. Sitting now in my favorite chair, drinking a cup of coffee while the kids were busying themselves with their treasures, a warm feeling of satisfaction permeates my inner being letting me know all is right with the world. Then, “Hey dad, did you get batteries for this thing? It won’t work without them!” Well phooey! So much for the warm satisfaction of the inner being because now I have to drag my outer being out into the cold to find somewhere open that has batteries! Twenty years prior, you would have been hard pressed to find anyplace open, but in today’s world of the convenience stores, you’ll have half a dozen in a small radius running 24/7/365. The first one I went to was just a mile from the house, but it was so packed I couldn’t get in the parking lot. Guess there’s lot of us who forgot batteries. Driving on I went to the next store a few blocks up, but they were sold out. Ok, up through town to the next. “Sorry sir, we sold out of batteries early.” What’s wrong with these places!? Don’t they know that for Christmas ya gotta stock a lot of batteries for pete sake!? Back out into the cold and onward to the next destination. There I saw it the moment I walked through the door, the tree of AC life! Batteries galore, halleluiah! My jubilation was short lived because I then learned buying at an establishment such as a convenience store; you end up paying twice as much as you would at a regular store. Peering down at the price tag steamed me thinking how dumb I was to forget them in the first place and now the gall of this place to take advantage of my circumstance. ‘Come on Miller, bite your lip, swallow your pride and buy the dumb things so you can get back home to the family.’ Begrudgingly, I headed to the check-out to find myself waiting twenty minutes before I was taken care of. The first person in line was taking their good old sweet time buying a variety of lotto tickets; and my inner being was going burn, burn, burn. With the next customer, the girl at the cash register messed up their purchase and had to start over, and my inner being was going burn, burn, BURN. Then something happened to the register as she waited on the person in front of me and we had to move over to another register, but first she had to feed receipt paper into it and get her cash drawer in order, and my inner being went burn, BURN, BURN! The grumbling from customers was starting to fill the air, and with good reason, right? When the customer in front of me was finally taken care of, he let this gal know just how dumb and incompetent he thought she was. He left and now I was standing before this girl, this child; and her face was red and tears were starting to stream down her cheeks, and my inner being whispered, ‘Lord, have mercy on me a sinner.’ “Hey cutie, that face is too pretty to have it all messed up like that,” I said with a smile (1st one I found since leaving the house). “The manager never told me it was gonna be like this today, this madhouse, and I only started two weeks ago. I don’t want to be here either. My kids are at my parents because I need to work, I need to make money so we can live.” Reaching in my coat pocket I pulled out a small present, something Cathy and I make and handed it to her; “just concentrate on taking care one person one at a time and if you start to get overwhelmed again, use the gift, it’ll make you feel better. Then remind yourself, soon you’re gonna be back with those kids that think you’re the greatest.” That’s all it took. The natural beauty came back to that girl’s face and with a smile and a ‘Merry Christmas,’ I headed for home with the satisfaction I felt inwardly earlier, but now, also humbled. I thought about the girl the rest of that evening and her situation, her dilemma of having to work a minimum wage job to support her and her children. I thought about what it must feel like to work Christmas, separated from the ones you loves and having to deal with people with attitudes, yours truly amongst them. That became the catalyst for a Christmas tradition that my Lady and I have been doing ever since; and now, I share it with you. Each Christmas morn we are up early, armed with boxes of small gifts we’ve made and we head into the community to hand them out to all that we find working. You would not believe the reaction you get when you walk into a place and hand one of those to someone with a smile and “Merry Christmas!” We thought we did pretty well that 1st year handing out 50. Then we realized there were a lot more folks working this day than we first imagined. Besides convenience stores there were hotel staffers, guards at factories, and drug stores. Then you have the police, the sheriffs’ office, the fire department, the EMTs and the hospital staff. Recent years we’ve been adding retirement homes where there’s even more people working. And then there’s the occasional person you just happen to run into that looks like they could use a little cheer. I see no reason to tell you how many we give out, but just say it has grown substantially and probably will continue that way. Yes, the cost can get a little salty, but if you spread it out over a year it’s not too bad. There have been a couple of years I didn’t think we were going to be able to do it when funds were low, but God must see some good out of it because we’ve haven’t missed a Christmas since the first. Now let me make this straight, I don’t tell you folks this to blow my own horn and have you think “isn’t that just wonderful what they do.” I’ve actually never looked at that way. What I’m doing is showing off my Christmas present; to me! Musician and writer John Fischer made this comment recently in his devotionals that sums it up best. “Everyone always asks what did you get for Christmas? But how often has it ever been asked, what did you give for Christmas? And isn’t that what it’s really about anyway?’ Christmas will be festive at the Miller home again this season. I’ll be with my Lady, kids, grandkids and friends. We’ll go bowling (a Miller tradition), come back to the house, read the true Christmas story, let the little ones open presents 1st, then the big kids and finish with food and laughter. That’s one gift to me. But that morning my lady and I will be making our rounds and even adding several places to leave our little presents. That’s another gift to me. On each of the presents there’s a little sticker that says ‘Unto to us a child is born.’ That, my dear friends, is truly the greatest gift. May your Christmas be filled with laughter, joy and love. And as you enter into a new year perhaps you will think of a way to make someone else’s next Christmas just a little brighter. Trust me, it will be one of the greatest gifts you’ll receive, not under the tree, but in your heart.





The “Bear” Facts

9 11 2010

One of the activities our family has enjoyed is trail hiking in the Great Smoky Mountains during vacation time.  We hold a distinction of being probably one of the few groups to ever visit Gatlinburg or Pigeon Forge, Tennessee and not take in the tourism features of the region.  We have never gone to one of the many country shows located there; have eaten at any of the restaurants a handful of times; never stayed at any of the fancy hotels and have never stopped at any of the side attractions such as the museums or the rides.  We generally stay in a rented cabin set on a hilltop just outside one of these communities, with our main trip into town done to buy groceries.  The kids never seemed to mind that we didn’t visit the attractions that I mentioned since cabins in recent times are not the same as they were years ago now sporting such luxuries as a Jacuzzi and satellite television.  Cathy and I have our own favorite entertainment there; a couple of rocking chairs on the porch, a flat top guitar and a panoramic view of the mountains.  The cabin itself is used sparingly on our visits.  Being an early riser, I’m always the first to get up so I take on the function of breakfast cook and for me; that’s Showtime!  Eggs, sausage, bacon, fruit, blueberry silver dollars pancakes, potatoes and of course; biscuits and gravy, I do it all.   The kids have brought friends with them before on our excursions and I would get a kick out of seeing their faces the first time they get up to come down for breakfast with enough food sitting on the table to feed a small army.  My children would tell the newcomers; “You’ll get used to it in a couple of days.”  Early morning in the Smoky Mountains is always the best time, when the sun is beginning to peak over the mountain tops and you can almost hear a voice gently command you to take in the still and serenity with the reverence that is due.

One morning my moment of meditation was interrupted by a crashing sound on the other side of the cabin.  I made my way around to see what was going on just in time to catch glimpse of a little kid; all black and furry make his getaway into the woods after raiding our trashcans.  After breakfast comes the packing of sandwiches, fruit, granola bars and water. Then it’s jump into the cars and head off to the trailhead that has been picked for the day’s adventure.  There are a number of trails in the Smoky’s that the park service maintains, but most of them are well traveled with people coming and going constantly.  These are nice trails and quite scenic, but something about paths where you see so many people seems to distract from the whole experience of being in the mountains.  We try to seek out directions that are a little more off the beaten path, where around every bend and up over each rock the surroundings seem to shout out, ‘We’ve been here waiting just for you.’

We found out that one of those treks led to a large waterfall some three hours hike back in the mountains.  A hike that’s going to be three hours in and three hours back out makes for a long day so you have to keep close track of time while you’re back in the mountains.  As beautiful as the mountains are in the daylight, they are almost impossible to maneuver at nightfall. Once nightfall sets in a person finds themselves in almost complete darkness.  The climb over rock and rugged terrain was a strenuous one that day with me probably holding back the rest of the group the most.  I was still a two-pack-a-day smoker at that time and there were a few moments that I didn’t think I was going to make it.  But at the end of the three-hour hike, covered in sweat, heart pounding like it was going to explode and exhausted, all thoughts of fatigue vanished.  Before us was the waterfall, spanning 100 yards across and at least 75 yards high.  The mist from the water made natural air conditioning that cooled the atmosphere around us by at least twenty degrees. The rock wall that the water cascaded over was layered in colors of purple, red, black and white.  It was simply inspiring to behold.  We ate lunch there, then spent time frolicking in the icy cold water and exploring the area around and on top of the falls.  My sons, Jeremy and Justin, decided to continue on up the path past the waterfall to see where it led.  The rest of us were too worn out to climb any further so we stayed behind to wait for them.  Over an hour passed and they did not come back.  More time passed and we were starting to get just a little nervous, wondering where they were.  I wasn’t too worried, knowing the boys could take care of themselves and were smart enough to stay on the path.  But time was passing and it was now late afternoon.  If we didn’t start back down soon, we would be caught up there when night fell in.  Cathy and I told the rest to head back down and wait for us by the cars.  Another half hour went by and I sent Cathy back also.  I stayed there for some time and then finally had to tell God, “They’re in your hands, please bring them back safely.”  I took hold of my walking stick and  headed down the mountain.  Walking alone with shadows appearing from the late day sun made the return trip a little apprehensive.  I was about half way back, my ears were keying in on every sound. Suddenly, I heard loud rustling of something through the trees and brush at a dead run.  My mind told me it was a bear.  I looked around to see if maybe I had gotten between a cub and its mother, but I couldn’t see a thing.  The noise was getting louder as it drew closer; my heart began beating harder!  I heard a woman let out an earth shattering scream down below me.  The trail was winding and I could not see a young couple that was about fifty yards ahead of me.  I heard a man say, “Its okay, it kept going!” It must have crossed right in front of them and now was heading right at me!  I was sure it was a bear now and I knew running wasn’t going to do any good. I griped my walking stick in both hands and braced myself for the attack.  Maybe I wasn’t going to get passed the first round with this bad boy I heard coming for me, but I was going to at least do all I could to put a knot on his head!  The noise was almost on top of me now; I raised my stick over my head thinking “this is it!”  An explosion of fur, antlers, and hooves came crashing out of the brush, on to the trail and then back into the growth on the other side as I stood there frozen like a statue, inches away from where it passed; the stick still over my head–it was a deer!

Isaiah 41:13 – “For I am the Lord, your God, who takes hold of your right hand and says to you, Do not fear; I will help you.”

In that brief moment of self-induced anxiety, I thought for sure my life was about to end.  Just a few miles back I had told the Lord that I trusted Him to watch over my boys, but when it came to my own life I completely forgot His love, concern and promise to watch over me and that He would never forsake me.  In the verse that I chose tonight, the point I wished to get across refers to taking hold of our right hand.  What the literal interpretation of this means is to strengthen you and keep you from stumbling.  Whether it was a bear, deer, rabbit or hippo, God was there with me saying, “I’m here; I will help you,” if I would have just listened.  When I reached the bottom, Cathy and the others were there waiting.  Fifteen minutes later the boys came bouncing down the path, laughing and joking all the way.  We had gotten out of the mountains about a half hour before sundown and returned to the cabin where the conversation turned to what we did and saw that day.  I chose not to say anything about my near deadly encounter with a wild eyed, rip snorting; deer.  Only now as I write this is my family discovering what went on that day.  What can I say; macho still reigns a little in this old man.  After dinner the kids went into town and my lady and I took up positions on the porch relaxing and watching the mountains silhouette in the distance until they finally disappeared in the twilight.  My mind went back to my fear on the trail and I silently thanked God for watching over me.  Then it hit me; the worst thing that could have happened today was that I ended up going home to my Heavenly Father be it from bear attack or heart attack.  With a smile I thought, if that’s the worst I’ve got to look forward to, I’ve got no complaints.  Cathy looked over at me and said, “What are you grinning about?”  I took hold of her right hand and said, “I just realized I couldn’t be happier.”





The Ballad of Thirty Cents

13 10 2009

One of the greatest influences on my life was my Great Aunt Pearl. In this somewhat active life, I have had opportunity to meet individuals who have made their mark in fields ranging from politics, entertainment, business and industry, education, theology, science, writing, and culture, etc., many with vast contributions to society and from whom I personally emulate numerous ideologies and positions that I hold to. Of this collection of teachers and mentors, the grand lady of the mountains, Aunt Pearl still stands head and shoulders above the rest by what she poured into this man’s life by example and the many wonderful stories she illustrated in words that would paint vivid pictures in my mind. I believe of the many she related, the most impressionable was one that I titled simply “30 Cents.” During the depression years of our country, the majority of the population found themselves in an impoverished state with the grand people of the Appalachian region hit hard by the decline in coal mining, the major source of employment for many. During this era Aunt Pearl and Uncle Price, who were newlyweds, were penniless and had to rely on any means possible to survive. Anyone who knew Pearl also knew that she prided herself on her ability for self-sufficiency. One the main ways, as she and so many did at this point in time, was to raise a garden. I have always believed that the adage of the person with the green thumb was a portrait of my Aunt Pearl. She always grew beautiful gardens back in Ohio that were the largest and most fruitful of anyone around us. And back in the late ‘30’s, living in West Virginia; Pearl seemed to have the same knack knowing that when canning season came, she would be able to put up enough food to last them into the next growing season. I believe that Pearl told me that it was sometime around 1940 when she had grown the best garden she had ever put out and was very delighted with all that she and her husband, Price, would have to yield. One problem stood in the way of this harvest and that was the preservative that was needed to go into the jars to ensure that the food would not spoil after it had been canned. Pearl knew exactly how much she would need and how much it was going to cost, which seemed like a fortune to her at that time—30 cents. Because she could not find work and Price was not able to, money was something that they had very little of and very seldom. When relating this story, she emphasized how she knew that the only answer was to be found in earnest prayer so she had cried out to the Lord saying, “Lord, I know you didn’t give me all this, just to have it spoil. Please send me 30 cents.” When she finished her prayer, she began thinking of a few places where there might be a little change. So the search began—in old pocketbooks, coats, trousers, behind furniture, down in furniture, every crack and crevice that was in their house. This endeavor took up an entire morning and afternoon and when the pursuit was over, she sat down to count the pennies. There were 30. You would have thought that she would have got up and made a run to the store right then to get the precious preservative, but she could not. She sat there the rest of the evening crying and giving praise to her Lord and Savior for how rich He had made her. I’m reminded of Philippians 4:19, which says, “But my God shall supply all your need according to his riches in glory by Christ Jesus.” Through my childhood years, I came to know this story very well as Pearl would relate it to me on a numerous occasions, not with the purpose of telling me how hard life was—and it truly was—but for a two part lesson in life. First, never take anything that you have for granted no matter how small and insignificant it may seem—even as little as a penny. The second and the most important that she wanted to drive home to me was to always remember how much God loved me and if I would just trust in Him, He would never fail me or forsake me. Pearl would relate this to the story in the Bible of the 30 pieces of silver, which at that time was a very large amount of money; that after Judas had received it, became completely worthless to him because of what it represented. God blessed Pearl by giving her 30 pennies and she was always thankful and gave praise to Him. If you ever have the privilege to visit Princeton, West Virginia, make a point to stop at the grave site of this beloved saint. You will be able to sits on the side of a hill looking out at the mountains that Pearl cherished so deeply. If you have a pen knife, dig one inch from the bottom right hand corner of the gravestone and you will find 30 cents that I placed there many years ago. I try to dig them up and hold them whenever I am there. When I hold these coins in my hand, it is a reminder not only of how much God blessed Pearl’s life, but how very much she blessed mine and all those with whom she came in contact. She truly blessed us with a wealth that far exceeds anything many in this world could understand as riches. May your riches in life go far beyond worldly treasures. Blessings to you and your loved ones Johnny